Sunday, August 06, 2006, 11:53 AM
My love
love nowadays is affected by money worries, studies stress, other commitment, family pressure, peers pressure, religion problems and lastly, within the one you love. there is no more pure love in this world now to me. things and time have changed. keeping faithful to one another is not enough.
money worries is the easily to solved in my opinion, as just by thinking before you spend will help alot. now we think about cutting down on expensive food, weekend movies is okay liao. there is still no bills to pay, no problem about flat, job and the list goes on... everyone hope to have a rich partner, so that when both go out, one could treat or flourish with gifts. if you are a poor fellow, be prepared to be look down. everyone hope to be born in a rich family.
studies worries is how someone manages the time, if one have school work to handle, the partner should be considerate and understand. just tell the partner honestly that you have school work to do and he/she might accompany you if they are able. if one partner is going to university, and you are still in poly or cant cant get into university, its mean you are stupid. some people no matter how they study, its just wont get in. in this world that is created, not everyone is equally smart.
other commitment like basketball, aikido, dance lesson is ok. as long it doesn't take up everyday of your life. 2-3 times per week is okay. and of cos studies is more important than all this commitments.
family and peers pressure is very hard to deal with, if them doesnt like your partner, it will only make the guy just wanna be with you, and not family outing or outing with your friends. he just wanna be with you, he doesnt like to be out with someone he know that doesnt like him or look down on. that explain why he keep saying no to some outing. sometimes just being a hypocrite on the surface helps alot. family hope partner to be successful in life, get into university, all this just add on to the pressure to the partner as its the words from the parents. if you unable to achieve and lead a poor life and take your partner to suffer along with you, you will be condemn and family and friends will question why your partner follow you this poor fellow.
religion problems is the hardest to conquer, if one partner is christian another is buddism, how will each parents think ? both side parents will surely hope that their one will stay with them, and not convert. if one keep going to church though he is from a buddism family, the parents will be sad and angry, trying all sorts of things to stop him, and this might lead to the conclusion that it is the partner who is asking him to go which might make her enemy no 1 with the family. going to church make the partner happy, but back home is sadness. and by goin to church everyday sunday, the day might changed. sunday is so called family day too. as service is usually in the morning, the guy need to wake up early and travel, not enough sleep make the guy wanna fall asleep and unable to pay attention and it become like a lecture in the auditorium.
within the one, from friends to lovers, you all have know each other every well, unlike those love at the first sight. but what if one of the couple character changes when they are together unlike those time? pressure within the one you love will make you feel stress and sad.
welcome to the materealistic and practical world of love. singapore is going to become developed country soon and more high end stuff will be build. if you are unable to survive in this tough environment to compete, you will be left behind with no future. and no matter what problem or obstacles occur, both need to overcome it together. but what if the obstacles is never ending and the problems become bigger and bigger and you need to overcome it everyday? i just hope to have a simple love and life, but in singapore, its impossible. life is a struggle. too many factors to think about. we have all grown up, all the problem your parent think comes in.
